Sometimes there are just no reasons why things in life happen the way they do.  My story begins quite some time ago.   After going to law school and becoming a lawyer I figured that there was more to life than just work.   Life for me is about sharing its ups and downs with someone special.   There are many Indians where I live in California but its been hard for me to filter out quality individuals especially since alot of the guys in California never know when to balance their ambition with other aspects of their social life.   After a while, I decided to do everything in my power to take charge to get what I wanted… (eventually that someone special) I added my profile to India Match and Shaadi.com.  Many people who know me know that I’m more of a social type.   I’d rather talk over the phone than endlessly email someone I’d rather just meet someone up rather than endless phonecalls.  After communicating with several guys back and forth only to be disappointed and lose interest.   I started the process again.  I checked my email on India Match and had received a message from a guy in Arizona with a very interesting screen name and cute picture.   The message said something like you’re very pretty.   Obviously, I thought to myself this guy definitely has taste .   The picture grabbed my attention since I could sort of determine from the fuzziness of the picture that the guy was cute.   The profile screen name also grabbed my attention because it had a hint of romance.  The screen name was Ek Piyar..or one love…. based on the profile, the guy seemed romantic.   Since I was intrigued, I tried to rpely back to Ek Piyar’s message.  Unfortunately, after several days went by, I didn’t hear anything back.  I started the process again.  This time I decided to spend some time on Shaadi.com.   While perusing the profiles on Shaadi, I came across Ek Piyar’s profile and was amazed.   I figured that I should try one more time and see if I could get a hold of Ek Piyar.  Guess what, Ek Piyar and I exchanged phone numbers and talked over the phone.  Our first conversation over the phone seemed great.  Ek Piyar seemed like a smart cookie.   Since he had to wake up early the next morning we ended our phone conversation.  Several days later, I called Ek Piyar.  Unfortunately, he was at the hospital working so we didn’t have a chance to talk.   About a month passed by and for some reason, Ek Piyar and I never chatted that is until the Matri Convention.    One day, my girlfriend’s mom mentioned the Matri Convention to her.  Matri is a Convention geared towards individuals who are looking to find the one.   Although I was a little hesitant to go to the Convention since it was a little hesistant to go to the Convention since it was being held in New Jersey, it was going to be pricey and its essentially a “find your hubby or find your wifey conference.    I focused on the positives of the Convention.  If I attended the conference it would mean at least the physical attraction element would be easier to discover as opposed to on shaadi.com or India Match.    Shaadi.com or India Match, a person only is truly able to discover if they are physically attracted to someone after numerous phone conversations and then meeting up the individuals.    Matri gathers everyone at one location so this aspect of physical attraction is easier since you get to see everyone in person and get to have live conversations.   My girlfriend and I walked into Matri and registered and then sat down at a table.   While we were waiting, guess who also showed up at our table…Ek Piyar.    It seemed so strange to see him there especially since NJ is a long way from Arizona and California and we had flakey conversations on India Match and shaadi.com and it just seemed like what are the odds that the guy I spoke to would be at a conference in New Jersey.   Anyways, after I met Ek Piyar, I definitely liked what I saw in the looks department…. But looks are one thing, as for his personality, I still had to get to know him.   The whole point of Matri is to get to know individuals that you don’t already know.   So Ek Piyar and I both had brief conversations with one another and then tried to get to know others.  After a while, my girlfriend told me that Ek Piyar sat down with her because he was done networking and felt that I was working the room.   The next day I felt far worse about Ek Piyar especially since it seemed like he had a harem of women who were interested in him.   As the conference was about to end, all Matri attendees were supposed to pick their top choices of who they wanted to spend five minutes with at the conference and talk.   Prior to this, Ek Piyar told me that he wasn’t going to pick me because he lost interest…just kidding, he figured that he already had my phone number and he was going to be coming out to LA the following weekend so we would get to know each other then.   Apparently, Ek Piyar told me that he was coming to LA to see another girl that weekend and if I was interested, he and I should also meet up.    To be quite honest,when Ek Piyar  told me this, I was initially really turned off.   He seemed like Pimp daddy trying to get to know as many girls as possible.   After a while I thought about it and realized that I was a hypocrite.  Ek Piyar was blatantly honest with me and told me why he was coming to LA.  Nevertheless, in the back of my head it kind of sucks when someone is honest with you when you yourself feel like you’re the bomb and have alot of qualities to offer…more so then alot of indian girls.  Ek Piyar came into town one week after the Matri conference.  he already made plans with the other LA girl for Friday night….Ek Piyar later told me the LA girl was boring.  Ek Piyar did want to spend Saturday night with me, unfortunately I had to work.  On Sunday, Ek Piyar agreed to meet up for lunch before he headed out to Arizona 3 hours later.  Conversation at lunch seemed to be really flowing, there weren’t any dull moments.  I even showed Ek Piyar around the beach from the car.   By the time I showed Ek Piyar the beach it was time for him to go.   I wanted to spend more time with him.   We ended our hangout with both of us on the same page.  I decided that Ek Piyar wasn’t a creep for coming to see another girl and incidentally seeing me in LA.   We both wanted to spend more time with each other so I planned a road trip to Arizona to see him.   

 The Road trip:   When I planned my road trip, I was excited to see Ek Piyar since we had such a great time but then somewhere along my roadtrip I felt a little weird, I still believe in CHIVALRY and would never evr go visit a guy first unless there were some exceptional circumstances.  I guess I’ve always believed this.  I just feel that while life is about chances and you’re not going to get anywhere without taking a chance, by me travelling to the guy it seems like I’m on his own home turff and technically the guy may feel that I want him more since I’m travelling to see him.   After overanalyzing the road trip, I though hey, technically I didn’t go to see him first because although he didn’t specifically come to see me in LA, he did tell me that the other LA girl was a bore and that we genuinely had fun together and genuinely should spend time together.

 The trip:  Once I arrived in Arizona, I was excited to see Ek Piayr, I felt everything was great.  Our conversation flowed, we relaxed with some alcohol and he was definitely cute.    The only bad thing was the 111 degree heat…its like stepping into an oven.   After talking in general…Ek Piyar and I went to dinner.  Dinner conversation started out well until Ek mentioned the four other women he was talking to.  When I heard Ek mention the four other women, it kind of sucked because I felt that number one, the guy should clearly see what’s in front of him and forget about all the others heeheee…. and I also felt like I was just a number and was putting in alot of effort to see him (5 hours) one way just to feel like a number.    At that moment I was annoyed at Ek.    While i valued his honesty, it sucked to know I was one of four.   What’s ironic is that I guess I had a double standard.  Like Ek, I’m also on a mission to find the one and I feel the only way to do that is to keep putting effort into people who seem like they’re focused and know what they want and then be exclusive.  I drove back home from Arizona and as I’m writing this things make more sense.   At this point, I strongly believe if you’re bpound to meet someone as Ek and I were…you will.  I also believe that no one can force someone into exclusivity, you’ve gotta go with how you both feel and if its meant to be it’ll be, if it isn’t it wont and you’ve gotta push yourself to find the one.

 The next day, Ek and I spent more time together and he  brought up the topic of a kiss.   Ek basically felt that if the persona kissed badly even if he and the girl got along, it wasn’t going to work.  Anyways, it was time to say goodbye to Ek.   Since we talked about the kissing aspect so much I figured that he wasn’t going to kiss me since we both agreed on meeting up another time.   As we were about to say good bye…all I could think about was that I wanted to kiss him but also the pressure of the kiss…will it be good…bad…and then it was too late to think.   Ek hugged me and we kissed.    After the kiss, he left and let’s just say while I do want to protect my heart I can’t wait to see him again.